Saturday, November 26, 2005

• The Perfect Worker/Employee
• The Perfect Son/Daughter
• The Perfect Lover

So, where does Practice Makes Perfect come in? Well, simple. Many strive to be the perfect employee (to aid their career I supposed) by playing slave to the organisation and slogging their guts out. Aim to be the perfect son/daughter by trying to spend time with family and listening to Daddy or Mummy. Want to be the perfect lover by being as sweet and accomodating as possible to your partner. But well, all these are pretty idealistic views.

We only have 24 hours a day and after being the so-called perfect worker by slogging till midnight everyday, is there time to be show any filial piety to your parents or sweetness to your lover? Oh yah, I almost forgot. There is still the weekend. Yah, can bring Mummy & Daddy out on weekends and be the perfect child. Now, we are talking about real filial piety here. But wait a minute, where does this leave time to be the perfect lover?

Well, borrowing a friend's words here. "I know we love each other and that's good enough. I will not betray or cheat on her and I call her everyday. She should understand that I need to carve out for my career and I can't neglect my parents. When I succeed in my career, I will have all the time in the world for her." Ah.... so, he thinks he is being the PERFECT employee, son and lover here!

I feel like slapping him then. Everything is perfect in this world, even one's desire to improve it. When will success really comes? When one reaches a certain level, he will wanna go higher. There is no end.

Oh anyway, I replied this to him "Wonderful! I am sure your girl will understand. But perhaps in the meantime, she can date other men and enjoy herself and you can seek her after you succeed ya. Since both of you love each other, I am sure she will understand and you will not mind her going out and having fun with friends (both male and female)."

He was silent for a moment then came this reply "I am sure she can go out with her gal friends and do things she like. I will never cheat on her."

"Oh, but she likes going out with you. But you got to work and spend time with family. I am sure she understands but how can she be out having fun without you when what she enjoys most is your company?"

He kept quiet. Then I said this very bluntly "Perhaps you should just stop being so selfish idealistic and spare a thought for others. The world does not just revolve around you."

It was quite a conversation but it echoed many Singaporean men's views and no, I am not generalising. Have repeated this conversation lotsa times with many others. Yes, am losing faith in men, mostly self-centered and egoistic ones.

Oh yes honey, I will wait pathetically patiently for you to strive for perfection and no worry, when I get married one day, I'm sure you will be the best male around on the wedding day.

And perhaps you will realise then, that the groom is not you.

Labels: Men, Random