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R.O.M. on 7 Sep '08 Recent Rants Steamboat Buffet & Victoria's Secret Mini Skirts. And more Mini Skirts! Friends
Alvin Travel Entries
Kunming & Bangkok Ho Chi Minh City (22 - 26 December 2006) 
Bangkok (4 - 8 August 2007) 
Chiangmai (6 - 10 December 2007) 
Cambodia (15 - 20 July 2008) 
Korea with Jeju (4 - 10 April 2008) 
Online Shopping Archives
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Sunday, October 09, 2005 Over the years, such situations are so common. Friends somehow disappeared though we do try our best to keep in touch. But it takes two hands to clap. If the other party can't be bothered, why should we still cling on to this one-way friendship? However, as I said, people take things for granted and indulge in the present. But when the present takes a change, they are at a lost. They start to seek comfort or solace in old friends, especially when new ones never really stay. Unfortunately, after the comfort is over and when they are back at their feet and all well again, they cast their friends, once again. Some people are very sentimental. I am like that. I know. I will always be there for a friend. But I also learn, only a small handful will be there for you. But it's enough. It is during the course of time that we found these wonderful few. A memory is deepy etched in my mind, and heart too. I broke up with an ex-boyfriend many years ago. He was a total jerk and I felt really devastated. Not because I was madly in love with him. I was more angry and frustrated at myself for trusting the wrong guy. I remember clearly. I called a good friend, A. When she answered the phone, she was with her boyfriend. Me: "Errr, I just broke up with XXX. Can we talk?" And I waited. An hour passed. Then another hour. And yet another hour. Then I realised that she was not going to call. I have never felt so terrible in my life. The feeling of you thinking that this friend will always be here for you but leaving you by yourself eventually. Then I called another friend, B. I know I needed to talk to someone. After how A reacted, I was not hopeful though. Similarly, B was also out with her guy. Me: "I just broke up with XXX."And then I told her the whole story. We spoke for nearly an hour. She never asked me to hang up or excused herself to speak to her waiting bf. I remembered her words before we hung up. "Please don't think so much. I will always be here for you. Men can be And she really did call when she got home. We spoke for another hour till she asked me to go to bed. For the next few days that followed, she met up with me a few times amidst her busy schedule and she called and monitored my progress daily. As for A, from what I can remember, don't think she called till weeks later to ask me how I am doing. *shrugs* For the first time, I understand the feeling of being helpless and with no support. Just like I am falling. To a bottomless pit. And I promise myself. To whoever I regard as a friend, I will never want him/her to go through this. Months later, A called me. She was sobbing. She said she had a huge quarrel with her bf and might break up. I was so anxious. I still remembered that I was about to go to bed then due to a tired day but I stayed up and chatted with her. I even invited her to my place. She was outside and I convinced her to go home. I was dead beat but I held on to the conversation with her, offering her whatever comfort I can. Cos I know how terrible she will feel if I were to hang up on her. She did go home finally and I called her daily to check on her subsequently. She patched things up with her bf after some time. And then, she disappeared from my life. I guessed back to her normal self and her normal daily life. For the last few years, I only met up with her at times when she was down/upset or argued with her bf. Over the years, we have all been through a few relationships and have our fair share of heart breaks. I know that I have always been there if she called. Now reflecting back, I believe I will continue to do so, to be there for a friend if she asked/called. And also, I have come to realise that some friends will never be really true friends and will not be there for you. But it is ok. I do not want them to go through the same pain I had gone through. I would rather they be happy. However, I know now, of the few treasured friends whom I know will be there for me. Labels: Friends |
My Wedding
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